It's all right | 'Cause there's Beauty in the Breakdown.. so let go

Monday, February 1, 2010

Frou Frou... oh how I adore the words you sing, reminding me of Imogen Heap... so bittersweet are your lyrics.... but tell me, is there really "beauty in the breakdown?"

I'm not really sure how there is beauty in the wrong's, and sometimes I doubt that there is truth or light amidst darkness. Beauty in the breakdown, a right where there is wrong, and an endless supply of second chances seem a bit pointless when we, as a society, stress the importance of living to our highest ideals and standards... the attempt to be flawless. But we need to realize that we're not perfect. We're humans. We make mistakes, and there's always bumps in the roads.

Many wise figures in our culture believe that is within these troubles, the obstacles in life, that we learn to grow as a more mature and knowledgeable individual... if we approach them maturely or handle them in an "adult" fashion.

In a previous post, I briefly mentioned what it means to be an adult. According to federal law, the age of 18 opens many doors of responsibility and accountability because before the judge, that number makes you an adult.

What does this really mean?
I'm honestly unsure, myself. Clearly, being an adult does not mean turning 18, so I resorted to googling and using an online dictionary. The dictionary stated that an adult is someone who is fully grown or developed, emotionally and mentally mature, and of course legal age.

Well, when a situation goes wrong; when a rule is broken; when we knowingly commit a wrong... the ideal and adult response is for us to take accept responsibility and take ownership for what has happened.

As adults, we knew what we did was wrong, and sometimes we even had prior knowledge of the consequences that would result from our actions. Then the question remains: Why are we still fighting for our "wrong" when we clearly knew what was right? If we are adults as we say we are... isn't it the mature choice to accept the cards that have been dealt?

But then another question arise... how do we determine what an appropriate consequence to a situation is when we, ourselves, don't always make the best decisions? As much as we would like to think that all of us are mature adults, we make mistakes, too. We can't judge someone else when we are no less perfect, ourselves. And the better question is, what type of person would fully accept responsibility for their mistakes? No one enjoys acknowledging their own flaws, and no one willingly admits them either.

Frou Frou's "beauty in the breakdown" tells us to "let go," and to move on past these situations. When we grow up, we learn to accept the twists and turns life presents us even if it means facing judgment, punishment for own actions, etc. The outcome of the problem doesn't matter. It's not important. The criticisms and the penalties don't mean anything.

But, what does matter is how we faced the situation. Was it with grace and dignity? Because that is what brings out this "beauty in the breakdown." It's the realization of our mistakes and that we must try again to be better: to prove to not only ourselves but to others that we can be accountable.

The beauty is that in the midst of anger and frustration, we realized that it wasn't the fact that we got in trouble, but that we truly felt remorse for our actions. The beauty is that we learn from our mistakes and choose to open our hearts to others rather than close it, letting it shrivel and harden with resentment and bitterness.

I guess that's the "mature adult thing" to do. But the sad part is that people, regardless of age: older or younger, still continue to struggle with letting go.

If only Frou Frou could be a bit more influential...

"So, let go, yeah let go, just get in, oh it's so amazing here.. it's all right.. 'cause there's beauty in the breakdown." - Frou Frou's Let Go

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